Play with Power and Gender through Dance FAQ

Q: How can I tell if this workshop is for me?

A: This workshop is not for everyone. Below are some of the things I have found to be true for people who thrive in this workshop:

  • I'm willing to be uncomfortable

  • I'm interested in finding ways to connect with someone that are authentic whether I'm attracted to them or not

  • I'm willing to hear someone's desires about me

  • I'm willing to hear feedback about how someone experienced my touch, movement, and sexual energy

  • I'm willing to voice my desires and limits

  • I'm willing to connect with someone regardless of their gender

  • I understand this workshop is not a therapeutic space focused on healing a past experience and I am delighted to be present with my dance partner and the group

Q: How do you address trauma?

Watch the video at 9:45

Q: How many queer or trans folx will be there?

Watch the video at 16:55

Q: How is this attachment informed?

Watch the video at 41:54

Q: How much dance experience do I need?

Watch the video at 36:26

Q: If I come with my partner can we stay together?

A: Yes, you have the opportunity to do all of the dance duets with your partner. You can also choose to explore a duet with another person. I recommend having a conversation with your partner before the workshop to see what works well for both of you.

 

Q: I’m in a relationship with someone and I’m interested in exploring with new people. What conversation would be useful to have with my partner before I come?

A: I love that you’re considering the desires you have AND how to create clarity with your partner. These questions can open a courageous and compassionate conversation:

  1. What’s your intention for exploring with new people? Is there a way you would love your partner to celebrate and support that intention?

  2. Consider that sharing intimacy in this workshop can mean many creative ways to connect including running sexual energy with clothes on, letting someone witness you when you are experiencing eros, sharing touch, words, or breath with a romantic or sexual intention. Clarify what your desires and fantasies might be so you can see what agreements will support your partnership.

  3. How much would you like to share about your experience and how much is your partner interested in hearing? If they do want to know, is there a specific way that would make it easier or more fun to hear about? (For example, “I want to share this moment with you because I discovered something I would really like to explore with you.”) Remember you can always use a safeword if you want to pause or slow down the sharing so you can stay present.

    Thank you for having the courage to have this conversation with your partner. What a powerful way to support each others’ desires and growth as loving erotic adventurers.