How do we tremble our heart open & not closed?

How do we meet the crisis in today’s world through growing our connection to village & spirit?

grow village & a felt sense of spirt in today’s world? How do we partner with our bodies to move big energy & emotion so we may come home to our hearts, vision & vitality to contribute?

So much of what’s falling apart in the U.S. today has old roots in our history & in our bodies. It’s time to heal & become whole together. It’s time for a 3 day ritual for Grief & Eros, with 80 people on sacred land.

What is Grief Eros?

Grief is a soul cleansing, a physical, energetic, & spiritual release that supports us to recover from loss & reorient to a new way of life. Eros is our natural human tendency to share joy, play, sensuality, sexuality & aliveness in ways that transform us. Grief Eros is what happens when all the ways eros has been denied during our life, now has the space & permission to be known… to be part of our wholeness.

Our bodies are designed to heal & to love. When we grieve, laugh, or orgasm, our bodies organically shake, release, & open to aliveness. We can call on this natural capacity any time when we set an intention to heal… to transform what is not yet love into love!

Have you ever had a cry-gasm? Our bodies are not trying to categorize what is grief & what is erotic. We don’t choose what we feel, we simply choose if we open to feel. When we choose to open, both grief & eros may flow through to dissolve our limitations & expand our felt sense of love. Grief Eros is one of the most powerful ways to connect with community & with spirit.

Grief Eros Film & Ritual

This film & ritual is inspired by Sobonfu Somé, of the Dagara people in Burkina Faso (West Africa.) The Dagara believed, “if you want to protect yourselves from the enemy, teach the enemy how to grieve.” The safety of our human family, the Earth, & future generations depends on our capacity to grieve well. The solidarity, love, new innovations, ancestral support & vitality we need to move forward is waiting for us on the other side of these rituals. Sobonfu generously brought this spiritual technology to us in the West. Both Victor & Z had the honor of attending Sobonfu’s rituals.

Z created the Grief Eros Film to honor & carry forth Sobonfu’s legacy. The film brings you in to the intimacy of our village grieving together around 4 themes: gender, secure attachment, race, & eros. These themes are often the areas in our life where we experience the most fear, isolation, division, & systemic oppression as a human family.

Over the course of 3 days we share the film with space to grieve with each theme. We resource ourselves through dance, elemental altars, ancestral support, song & guided touch. Together we create a coherent field of love, one that is bigger than the suffering we are ready to let go of.

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Facilitation Team

Z Griss (they/them) is the visionary & director of the Grief Eros Film. Z has been guiding community rituals for personal & cultural liberation since 1999, as the founder of Embody More Love. Z’s life changed after experiencing Grief Rituals with Sobonfu Somé. Z has been called to carry forth her legacy & to weave it with dance & erotic liberation. Z is thrilled to be visiting Sobonfu’s family & village this fall to deepen the bridges & reciprocity with the Dagara Tribe! You may learn more about Z here.

Victor Warring (he/him) is a somatic sexuality educator, mentor, & an erotic decolonizer. He holds a BA in Cultural Anthropology from Franklin & Marshall College, & an MA in Somatic Psychology from Naropa University. He worked for 20 years as a somatically oriented psychotherapist in both private practice & agency work before embarking on his current practice of somatic sexuality work & community facilitation. He brings his experience in psychology, trauma, grief, movement, play, culture & the body to all of his work. In 2013, Victor took part in a community grief ritual led by Sobonfu Somé, which profoundly impacted his life & led to much of the weaving of village, ritual, indigenous wisdom & community held grief into his work. Learn more at ReWildEros.com.