Bring Grief Eros Ritual to Your People

What is Grief Eros?

Grief is a soul cleansing, a physical, energetic, & spiritual release that supports us to recover from loss & reorient to a new way of life. Eros is our natural human tendency to share joy, play, sensuality, sexuality & aliveness in ways that transform us. Grief Eros is what happens when all the ways eros has been denied during our life, now has the space & permission to be known… to be part of our wholeness.

Our bodies are designed to heal & to love. When we grieve, laugh, or orgasm, our bodies organically shake, release, & open to aliveness. We can call on this natural capacity any time when we set an intention to heal… to transform what is not yet love into love!

Have you ever had a cry-gasm? Our bodies are not trying to categorize what is grief & what is erotic. We don’t choose what we feel, we simply choose if we open to feel. When we choose to open, both grief & eros may flow through to dissolve our limitations & expand our felt sense of love. Grief Eros is one of the most powerful ways to connect with community & with spirit. We’d love to share it with you & your community!

Grief Eros Film & Ritual

Gather your people for this ritual, inspired by Sobonfu Somé, of the Dagara people in Burkina Faso (West Africa.) They believed, “if you want to protect yourselves from the enemy, teach the enemy how to grieve.” The safety of our human family, the Earth, & future generations depends on our capacity to grieve well. The solidarity, love, new innovations, ancestral support & vitality we need to move forward is waiting for us on the other side of these rituals. Let us gift you with the community & spiritual technology that Sobonfu generously brought to us westerners.

Z created the Grief Eros Film to honor & carry forth Sobonfu’s legacy. The film brings you in to the intimacy of our village grieving together around 4 themes: gender, secure attachment, race, & eros. These themes are often the areas in our life where we experience the most fear, isolation, division, & systemic oppression as a human family.

Over the course of 2.5 days (Fri evening to Sun evening) we share the film with space to grieve with each theme. We resource ourselves through dance, elemental altars, ancestral support, song & guided touch. Together we create a coherent field of love, one that is bigger than the suffering we are ready to let go of.

Bring the Ritual to Your People

“It is as difficult for indigenous people to conceive of life without a community as it is for most Westerners to imagine life in a community.” - Sobonfu Somé

One of the most powerful & healing things we can do at this time is to gather to create village through ritual. Bring us to your people!

Here’s how:

1. Make a list of the 25 - 50 people you would love to nurture each other

2. Share your desire to gather with them through this ritual (You may share this page! It also helps to share personally what’s calling you to this ritual & what you would love to create together as a community through this ritual.)

3. Sense how much interest there is in your circles

4. Once you have 25+ friends interested, schedule an Intro to the Grief Eros Ritual (90 min on zoom) to:

   1. Inspire your community to gather for an in person 2.5 day ritual

   2. Meet our team

   3. Watch a 20 min intro to the film

   4. Get a felt sense of what’s to come

   5. Ask questions

5. Book the Grief Eros Ritual!

Facilitation Team

Z Griss (they/them) is the visionary & director of the Grief Eros Film. Z has been guiding community rituals for personal & cultural liberation since 1999, as the founder of Embody More Love. Z’s life changed after experiencing Grief Rituals with Sobonfu Somé. Z has been called to carry forth her legacy & to weave it with dance & erotic liberation. Z is thrilled to be visiting Sobonfu’s family & village this fall to deepen the bridges & reciprocity with the Dagara Tribe! You may learn more about Z here.

Victor Warring (he/him) is a somatic sexuality educator, mentor, & an erotic decolonizer. He holds a BA in Cultural Anthropology from Franklin & Marshall College, & an MA in Somatic Psychology from Naropa University. He worked for 20 years as a somatically oriented psychotherapist in both private practice & agency work before embarking on his current practice of somatic sexuality work & community facilitation. He brings his experience in psychology, trauma, grief, movement, play, culture & the body to all of his work. In 2013, Victor took part in a community grief ritual led by Sobonfu Somé, which profoundly impacted his life & led to much of the weaving of village, ritual, indigenous wisdom & community held grief into his work. Learn more at ReWildEros.com.

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